“He has, quite simply, been my strength and stay all these years”, Her Majesty The Queen spoke about her consort on their golden jubilee celebrations. This statement throws so much of light into their life together. Now after 73 years of wedded life Her Majesty The Queen has lost her beloved husband, Duke of Edinburgh, Prince Philip. For the world Prince Philip’s demise is just a news, but for the Queen losing him after a life together for seven decades must be a tough and an emotional time. It will definitely take few months for her to come to terms with the separation. Death is the ultimate leveller. In whatever strata of life, you are, losing someone close to you will shake you up.
When I lost my husband in 2016, the world around me toppled. I was immersed in a grief that was unspeakable. Initial few months were so despondent. Life looked so empty and hopeless. In spite of being a strong-willed person, I started falling into multiple episodes of depression. Things around me got haywire. I became a recluse. I stopped sharing my pain even with my close circle of family and friends. With my children I was very careful, never showed my grief because they were so dependent on me at that time and I knew whatever I do will definitely affect their emotional well-being. So I started fighting my inner demons with prayer and sought support from a psychiatrist. The phase of grief was horrible though people were around me to console and support. I learnt no one else can share my pain. “Grief is a walk alone” no one else can walk it for you.
Life is so very unpredictable and uncertain. God fixes our time here in this world. The choice is not in our hands. So when someone close to us is called home, we are stranded, we get devastated. It is always better to take our own time so that we can heal ourselves. Real healing comes with lot of life learnings, the process of healing is hard, exhausting and emotionally draining. But for the purpose that we are here in this world, we need to heal our inner being. Your grief will never end as long as you live, but it will get softer over the years. Grief is like an ocean sometimes it is calm sometimes you will witness the tsunami. When the ocean wells up sail deep into the water, put your anchor on hope, rest for a while and come back to the shore with much better strength to bail someone else who is walking on a similar path like yours. Let's Keep walking ...
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